Since they were married, a friend of mine has made twice as much as her husband.
She has paid all the mortgage payments on two properties as well as any home purchases and improvements.
She has finally separated due to years of emotional abuse.
Now, here’s the hard question. Her total pension has been estimated in seven figures, of which her husband will be entitled to half. This will wipe out all her savings and deferred retirement accounts.
I know what the law is, and it was meant to protect women who were not actively in the work force. But for her to be financially wiped out seems so unfair.
Is there a way for her to protect some of her retirement pension from her husband?
Hi, I’m the British author of the recently-published book ‘THE MARRIAGE DELUSION – the fraud of the rings?’ which goes on sale shortly in the States (Amazon, Barnes & Noble…) Let me know if you want a complimentary copy for review and maybe put in your bookshop. I’d also be happy to pen an article as I have for http://www.wikivorce.com. I actually came onto this site in an effort to track down Amy Botwinick and offer HER a copy in appreciation of ‘Congratulations on Your Divorce’, so I shall carry on hunting! Oh, my book recently attracted two testimonials:
“A highly original and stimulating critique of the modern marriage crisis, supported by important yet sometimes uncomfortable truths.”
Oliver James, clinical psychologist, broadcaster, author of ‘Affluenza’, ‘Britain on the Couch’, ‘They Fxxx You Up’
“Mike Buchanan’s analysis of marriage in western industrialised society is courageous and thoughtful. His perspectives on the challenges associated with marriage, and solutions to them, draw on important scientific evidence and arguments from some of our leading psychologists and wisest philosophers. This is a ‘must-read’ for all concerned with modern marriage.”
Alan Carr, Professor of Clinical Psychology, University College, Dublin, author of ‘The Handbook of Adult Clinical Psychology’, ‘Family Therapy’, ‘Positive Psychology’
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Stuart 08.12.09 at 9:10 pm
Since they were married, a friend of mine has made twice as much as her husband.
She has paid all the mortgage payments on two properties as well as any home purchases and improvements.
She has finally separated due to years of emotional abuse.
Now, here’s the hard question. Her total pension has been estimated in seven figures, of which her husband will be entitled to half. This will wipe out all her savings and deferred retirement accounts.
I know what the law is, and it was meant to protect women who were not actively in the work force. But for her to be financially wiped out seems so unfair.
Is there a way for her to protect some of her retirement pension from her husband?
Mike Buchanan 12.06.09 at 11:11 am
Hi, I’m the British author of the recently-published book ‘THE MARRIAGE DELUSION – the fraud of the rings?’ which goes on sale shortly in the States (Amazon, Barnes & Noble…) Let me know if you want a complimentary copy for review and maybe put in your bookshop. I’d also be happy to pen an article as I have for http://www.wikivorce.com. I actually came onto this site in an effort to track down Amy Botwinick and offer HER a copy in appreciation of ‘Congratulations on Your Divorce’, so I shall carry on hunting! Oh, my book recently attracted two testimonials:
“A highly original and stimulating critique of the modern marriage crisis, supported by important yet sometimes uncomfortable truths.”
Oliver James, clinical psychologist, broadcaster, author of ‘Affluenza’, ‘Britain on the Couch’, ‘They Fxxx You Up’
“Mike Buchanan’s analysis of marriage in western industrialised society is courageous and thoughtful. His perspectives on the challenges associated with marriage, and solutions to them, draw on important scientific evidence and arguments from some of our leading psychologists and wisest philosophers. This is a ‘must-read’ for all concerned with modern marriage.”
Alan Carr, Professor of Clinical Psychology, University College, Dublin, author of ‘The Handbook of Adult Clinical Psychology’, ‘Family Therapy’, ‘Positive Psychology’
Best wishes from across the pond!
Eric Jones 12.01.10 at 6:22 pm
How can I get a quickie divorce….email me some infomation. One of my chldren isn’t 18 yet though.
Stacey Jones 12.01.10 at 6:24 pm
Yeah, Were through and we both want out. What can we both do to end this now?